Is it possible to be a Christian and not know who you are fully? The answer is most definitely a yes. Identity crises come in many forms. I’m sure to some this concept of a professing Christian struggling with an identity crisis is foreign.
In our society today we truly don’t give God his just due. We don’t place him in the proper position in our lives. We place everything and everyone in his space instead. We place our careers over God when we allow what we do to define who we are and if we’re worthy of even being “somebody”.
We place others (like our spouses, family members, friends, business partners etc.) over God when we’re concerned with the way they respond to us. We try to make them want us, love us, and stay connected to us. We try to use human wisdom to create bliss within the confines of a relationship. We seek affirmation, validation, and adoration solely from others.
We place our children over God when we’re concerned with molding them to conform to the world’s idea of success, which is nothing except external factors of such. We deposit in their little minds all the wordly deeds it takes to live a happy life. We’ll even throw a Christian cliche (for example: don’t forget to put God first) in for good measure when we “counsel” them.
We place causes over God when we pursue it to the point of exhaustion or worst, to be recognized as a good person either by God or man. After we go behind the scenes of trying to mold and whip our own lives into a perfect little box, we are often exhausted and disappointed. When the smoke clears after all that “hard work” we begin to see all we’ve really accomplished is chasing the wind.
God reveals that when we chase the wind we’re wrapping ourselves inside idols. He reveals that we don’t yet know fully who we are in HIM. So we instead try to establish our identity through these and other sources. Idols cannot heal, cannot love without fault, cannot satisfy, cannot quench, cannot save, and cannot nurture our souls. Idols cannot affirm or validate us. They can’t reach inside that essential part of soul and spirit where only God can reach.With idols we will always have a disappointment or a reoccurring longing because we choose to put anything in God’s position, instead of God himself.
After the disappointment(s) are feelings of disbelief, bitterness, and emptiness. We have our expectations riding on different factors. Many times we miss so ultimately our lives become spinning circles. Once we put on our spiritual eyes, we become aware of the major identity crisis issues we have. But this is the very place to start. By looking at our surrounding circumstances, other people, and ourselves through spiritual eyes we get to learn who we are in God. It’ll bring peace and joy unspeakable.
This is no small feat. It is a process. Processes are not always fun but is neccessary for our progression and growth in spiritual matters. Once we ackowledge and relish in the fact that we are wonderfully and fearfully made by God, that we are made in his image, that we are a royal priesthood, etc., we can rest in him because we’ll finally know who we are. After that freedom will abound.